Let me just start by saying that men do it in the worst possible way.
Prepare yourself ladies.
If you’ve recently been dumped, you’re about to see your ex on every dating site around. Why? Because they motivate each other to get over someone by getting under/over someone else.
The truth of it is, women do it to. And hey girl, if you’re getting it… get it.
But the truth to moving on from a breakup is that it takes time (a lot of time).
As women, our first instinct is to hit up every single ex-boyfriend, and it usually works. We start to try to fill their void with someone else. Not just anyone, but that special someone that we’ve always had that connection with. The one, or five, who just gets us.
After a few days/weeks of annoying texts and remembering why they’re you’re ex or why you never dated them to begin with, the memories of your newest ex are back. He just won’t get the fuck out, right? Like, ummmm no bitch. Bye. Go. Done. Hate you. Never again. You’re dead to me.
We continuously tell ourselves over and over how much better we are without them. In all reality, WE ARE! Sorry boys, but your bullshit is no longer needed.
Nobody wants to be with somebody who doesn’t want to be with them. I mean, if you want to beg for someone’s love by all means do so, just not my style.
My resolution = “Bitch Bye!”
They will do, say, text and even fucking snapchat you everything they can to get under your skin. I mean hell, they might even still go out and party with the girls that were part of your crew (similar to your friends but not really bestie material, if you know what I’m saying).
In all reality, they suck. Plain and simple. You my friend will deal with the reality of what is happening. You’ll drink your wine and cry on your friend’s shoulder. You’ll even slam your car breaks in the middle of a fucking road and start screaming at the top of your lungs (check).
Your life will be consumed with ups and downs for a few months. I’m not going to lie to you. Keep holding on to the hope of tomorrow being a better day. Because one day it will be better than today.
Life lesson: BREAKUPS FUCKING SUCK.
Maybe this is why guys never want to date? They’re fucking smart. Either they figured it out before we did or we have more balls to take on the hopes of something whimsical? Ew, I can’t believe I just said that.
Anyways… just know that in the end, you’re the one coming out ahead! Do you boo. Be proud, hold your head high and smile.
***Unless you’re a psycho ex-grirlfriend, none of this applies to you. Sorry.